To determine whether your relationship is abusive, answer the questions below. The more yes answers, the more likely it is that youre in an abusive relationship

Do You

  • Feel afraid of your partner much of the time?
  • Avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?
  • Feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner
  • Believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?
  • Wonder if you’re the one who is crazy?
  • Feel emotionally numb or helpless?

Does your partner:

  • Humiliate or yell at you?
  • Criticize you and put you down?
  • Treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see?
  • Ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?
  • Blame you for their own abusive behaviors?
  • See you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?
  • Have a bad and unpredictable temper?
  • Hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you?
  • Threaten to take your children away or harm them?
  • Threaten to commit suicide if you leave?
  • Destroy your belongings?
  • Act excessively jealous and possessive
  • Control where you go or what you do?
  • Keep you from seeing your friends or family?
  • Limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?
  • Constantly check up on you?

No one should live in fear of the person they love. If you recognize yourself or someone you know in the above warning signs and descriptions of abuse, reach out. There is help available.

Once you acknowledge the reality of the abusive situation, then you can get the help you need.